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Question: Do i need therapy please answer?

(Posted by: ExPartygirl Jenna on 2010-07-24 20:12:30)

I took my dad's NEW Tahoe hybrid for a drive because he took my car away from me, I drove it to the mall to go shopping and when I came out of the mall there was a dent near the bumper. To make things worse, he's a police officer and I am already grounded because I threw a party while my parents were out of town and I have also gotten a few tickets. I'm soo upset now my dad came home a couple of nights ago after work, and started screaming at me and was REALLY pissed about everything, and To make it worse, I started screaming at him and he grounded me until NOVEMBER . He didn't leave so I pushed him and that really got him angry and he just radioed one of his co- workers. I want to be close to my dad like I used to be. I also had a party while my parents were gone and my dad said Mario (also a police officer) and family friend would come and check on me I didn't believe my dad but sure enough he did come and I was drunk it was bad, and I REALIZE I made a messed up. I've tried apologizing and he just ignored me because he's upset and disappointed which I understand. Maybe I should give him some time to chill. Yeah He doesn't trust me right now obviously, I know he loves me though and I love him regardless.

Posted by: No Comment... on 2010-07-24, 20:16:35

Maybe you don't need therapy... maybe you just need a good friend to talk to and you should talk to your dad. don't cry or scream or try to attack him because that'll make it worse. just say that you want to talk to him like two adults and then explain whats going on.

Posted by: Tima S on 2010-07-24, 20:18:59

You don't need help. You're acting like a teenager. A bratty teenager at that. Maybe you are doing these things to seek attention from your father? Why don't you just tell Dad that you miss the way things used to be. And start doing what you're told. I bet if you act a little more mature, that Dad will start treating you better. He needs to be able to trust you.

Posted by: alx2 on 2010-07-24, 20:37:19

You don't need therapy, you're being a dumb teen. I have a teen daughter now, but I bet your Dad and I are around the same age, I bet your dad did very similar things, so he definitely knew to have Mario come check. We've been there. We love you-all, we are trying to keep you safe and get you through to adulthood without any big emotional marks/ mistakes against your psyche before you get there. Also, your dad is a cop, he knows that he could have been sued by any parent whose child could have hurt themselves at your property or leaving your property. You may not mean to be but you could really be disrespecting your dad by getting a few tickets. If your friends said to you, man, your dad is a real jerk. You'd be like, no, he's not, he's my dad, I can think that, not you. You getting tickets gives his coworkers an opportunity to say, Man, your daughter is really a screwup, and, he's like, No, she's not, she's a great kid, that's my daughter. Is there a boy in this mess somewhere? That is the only time my daughter completely loses her senses and tries to be super sneaky. Hey, I took the car once, I didn't get caught. I had the party, (once) we drew a map of where everything went and locked it up and I didn't get caught. (I also didn't have very much fun that night because I was too worried about anyone messing anything up.) Unfortunately for my daughter since I've been there and done that, I'm on it with her. I On the whole you want to be close again, you'll have to make an effort to just sit and hang out. But never ever doubt that you are No. 1 to him, if you weren't, he wouldn't be mad. His job is being a good father to a daughter he loves above all else, you really wouldn't expect him to be any other way, would you? If it was your daughter and she took your car and had a party in your house, what would you do?

Posted by: { D e l } on 2010-07-25, 00:20:21

No. You just need to be closer to your dad